Keywords: adolescent problems, parent - child communication,
Bullying
All adults really wonder what is the problem of adolescents?, To try to understand and act accordingly. The truth is that the life of a teenager is very different from an adult, and you have to understand things that are different from the typical rules of adults.There may be many reasons to trigger problems, but try to play the most important issues to fix things, whether readers are parents as teenagers.
I am a kid. In truth, I have 17 years. I live in one of the most troubled nations of the Community of Madrid, and have seen many difficult situations, both for kids and for parents.
First and most important, is the abuse of teenagers by other teenagers. In my opinion, the solution is that we can all learn that little rage we have inside to say, "Up here. It is enough. " In truth, we all know that talking with other adults and say it is not an effective method, because teenagers have different rules. The important thing is to try to keep your site, and the place of parents is to support and never let the teenager as impossible, since we, although sometimes reject any help possible, before or after we go to the parents.
Everyone can find friends, and there is a group that fits everyone, from teens more "bad" to those who suffer some form of abuse, so if your case is that you have been abused at some time in your life, my solution is to say, "Enough" and try to stand up to fix it. I, for one, have seen many teenagers, as they are willing to show everything (even, in extreme cases, violence), stop the aggression of their attackers, since they are normally timid and usually do what they do for lack of affection, mainly.
The main thing to solve the problems of a teenager, is to have a secure base, and this is achieved with a few goals to achieve: have more enthusiasm, a few friends to help when needed or to go out and have fun, and above all the unconditional support of parents, whenever an issue concerning your child. The reactions of the type "I do not care what you do" or "I will not help you more," are a bad thing for a teenager, as he pushed to be less sociable with the family and kept things that could be important. So the best thing is to have a rapport with adolescents, not to close at band.
If the problem is that a teenager does not leave home can be for several reasons: because it has not matured enough to relate to the world of the street yet (all in good time), or experiencing some form of abuse by fellow school or on the street. The solution to this is to look for new settings, if necessary, a radical change in the adolescent's life (change of school to meet new people, for example).
If on the other hand, the adolescent is always seems aggressive or nervous, the first thing is patience, may be that the teen has emotional problems transient, and would have to see first what is the problem, before acting improperly. Time (even my 17 years) has taught me that, first, is to address any problems that come from the front, and if there are problems, address them. Everyone can change, no need to think everything is black and can not get out of trouble.
The most important thing is that violence, unless it is in an extreme case, it is not necessary and, indeed, sometimes it's better to forget a problem with someone who is bothering to put together the most fuss, if the thing starts be complicated, because it happens, somehow we must act, but it is better to leave aside the senseless provocation.
The problems of teenagers at home are becoming more frequent by the changing times. Now, teens have moved and are more independent and less sociable with the family. The first thing is to leave some space at the teenager, who at this age we need it.There are different things like unnecessary excesses (too late arrival time, bonds, etc.), But that's best for the teenager look objectively, without thought of father or mother, and to determine whether the teenager is responsible for being late and stuff on.What is going quite well is adding obligations while freedoms, to learn to join the adult world gradually.
Remember that problems in school are always possible in any teen, and do not despair with the notes. If the problem is lack of understanding of school subjects, you can always seek to approve alternative methods (study skills, tutoring, etc..), If the problem is the total refusal to consider, you have to do is route would be reprimanded for their studies, and if the teen wants to start something new, and get to work or finish a few studies in truth, we must let him choose his way, that, whenever you have more than 16 years.
We must also be understanding and not taking all actions of the adolescent as an attack, because sometimes we do not realize and do things against adults. But that is normal in adolescence.
Finally, note that we are all people and we have feelings we all need to be rational and sit and talk from time to time. Something good is to talk about how food has been the day and issues that help build a good climate of trust that can not break, between adolescents and parents. The main thing is to find a small space of time for communication between parents and children.
Bullying
All adults really wonder what is the problem of adolescents?, To try to understand and act accordingly. The truth is that the life of a teenager is very different from an adult, and you have to understand things that are different from the typical rules of adults.There may be many reasons to trigger problems, but try to play the most important issues to fix things, whether readers are parents as teenagers.
I am a kid. In truth, I have 17 years. I live in one of the most troubled nations of the Community of Madrid, and have seen many difficult situations, both for kids and for parents.
First and most important, is the abuse of teenagers by other teenagers. In my opinion, the solution is that we can all learn that little rage we have inside to say, "Up here. It is enough. " In truth, we all know that talking with other adults and say it is not an effective method, because teenagers have different rules. The important thing is to try to keep your site, and the place of parents is to support and never let the teenager as impossible, since we, although sometimes reject any help possible, before or after we go to the parents.
Everyone can find friends, and there is a group that fits everyone, from teens more "bad" to those who suffer some form of abuse, so if your case is that you have been abused at some time in your life, my solution is to say, "Enough" and try to stand up to fix it. I, for one, have seen many teenagers, as they are willing to show everything (even, in extreme cases, violence), stop the aggression of their attackers, since they are normally timid and usually do what they do for lack of affection, mainly.
The main thing to solve the problems of a teenager, is to have a secure base, and this is achieved with a few goals to achieve: have more enthusiasm, a few friends to help when needed or to go out and have fun, and above all the unconditional support of parents, whenever an issue concerning your child. The reactions of the type "I do not care what you do" or "I will not help you more," are a bad thing for a teenager, as he pushed to be less sociable with the family and kept things that could be important. So the best thing is to have a rapport with adolescents, not to close at band.
If the problem is that a teenager does not leave home can be for several reasons: because it has not matured enough to relate to the world of the street yet (all in good time), or experiencing some form of abuse by fellow school or on the street. The solution to this is to look for new settings, if necessary, a radical change in the adolescent's life (change of school to meet new people, for example).
If on the other hand, the adolescent is always seems aggressive or nervous, the first thing is patience, may be that the teen has emotional problems transient, and would have to see first what is the problem, before acting improperly. Time (even my 17 years) has taught me that, first, is to address any problems that come from the front, and if there are problems, address them. Everyone can change, no need to think everything is black and can not get out of trouble.
The most important thing is that violence, unless it is in an extreme case, it is not necessary and, indeed, sometimes it's better to forget a problem with someone who is bothering to put together the most fuss, if the thing starts be complicated, because it happens, somehow we must act, but it is better to leave aside the senseless provocation.
The problems of teenagers at home are becoming more frequent by the changing times. Now, teens have moved and are more independent and less sociable with the family. The first thing is to leave some space at the teenager, who at this age we need it.There are different things like unnecessary excesses (too late arrival time, bonds, etc.), But that's best for the teenager look objectively, without thought of father or mother, and to determine whether the teenager is responsible for being late and stuff on.What is going quite well is adding obligations while freedoms, to learn to join the adult world gradually.
Remember that problems in school are always possible in any teen, and do not despair with the notes. If the problem is lack of understanding of school subjects, you can always seek to approve alternative methods (study skills, tutoring, etc..), If the problem is the total refusal to consider, you have to do is route would be reprimanded for their studies, and if the teen wants to start something new, and get to work or finish a few studies in truth, we must let him choose his way, that, whenever you have more than 16 years.
We must also be understanding and not taking all actions of the adolescent as an attack, because sometimes we do not realize and do things against adults. But that is normal in adolescence.
Finally, note that we are all people and we have feelings we all need to be rational and sit and talk from time to time. Something good is to talk about how food has been the day and issues that help build a good climate of trust that can not break, between adolescents and parents. The main thing is to find a small space of time for communication between parents and children.
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